January 21, 2013

Dating Mr. Interesting; Part 1,2 & 3

This could potentially be a long post, so I will attempt to be colorful yet concise in my wording.

Dates with Mr. Interesting

Part 1-
This broad shouldered, strong armed, caramel colored man, with a full beard and dark eyes approached my door, I had those butterflies. I don't get them often. This whole journey, he has been kind and respectful. I feel like when he looks at me, he starts from deep within me. Anyways, I'm getting ahead of myself.
I was swaggalicious that night. You know, how I do. I picked out my outfit and heels, my hair and face were fly. I even stopped by Sephora to pick up a sample my favorite scent (Alien by Thierry Mugler). I was feeling good and confident. So, like the gentleman he is- he picked me up and we were off. I have previously spoke with him that we should do something active. We agreed upon going to a pottery studio to paint something. We had a great time. He sat across from me and painted a vase and I choose a bowl. Interestingly, he actually finished on time. He had painted his vase with the Japanese characters for passion, and added a symbolic scenic landscape. It was lovely. I on the other hand, took so long to paint, I had to slap paint on my bowl at the last minute because they were closing. We chatted and learned more about each other. The next stop was dinner back in my neighborhood. Again, the talking and sharing was fluid and candid. At one point, I believe I said- "it feels like I've know you forever." He often says we are "kindred spirits". I can dig that.
As the night came to a close, we did share a beautiful intimate moment sharing poetry and a sweet embrace. He left as respectfully as he came.

Part 2-
I think by this point, we had many more philosophical, relational and spiritual conversations that I was pretty darn hooked intellectually. It just happens to be a bonus that his kindness and physical attributes also continue to inspire me.  It's weird to write this out- because I feel like I'm in high school with a crush. Is it a crush, if he likes you back? It had been a week exactly from when we had met- and he said we was going to visit me at work (where we met initially). He showed up with the same buddy and we had a great time chatting and throwing back a drink. I needed this because I had a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day! (I mean- I cried at work due to my sugar being so low because I didn't have enough time to eat dinner between 1st job and 2ed). So, to have this handsome gentleman caller come and visit me, sit next to me and put his arm around me- whew- I just melted like butter on a biscuit. It was a short visit but worth the wait!

Part 3-
By this point bigger questions were being asked that had complicated answers. For some reason, we had clicked and doors were opening that neither of us expected. This is still surreal- even while writing this. At times I'm even so scared that I want to run away. I think the concept of someone actually getting to know me and stay around even after the facts- blows my mind. And he's stuck around! He hasn't run away from some of the not so cute facts about my life. Sunday morning, he showed up again at my door. This time I just gave him the biggest hug I could imagine. I didn't even know how to communicate my likeness for him. After the hug, I grabbed my coat and walked into the blustery sunny morn, arm and arm with this new gentleman. We walked to the local coffee shop and went another layer deeper. It was beautiful. Finally, a guy who could communicate wants, desires, fears and conflicts- while at the same time listening and respecting mine. I know, single ladies, this is a rare find. My intention is to continue to explore more parts of him, and try to let some of my walls down. It's hard- at times I want to keep an arms distance from him. And other times, my arms are so tired of being up I just want to relax and be at peace with someone showing my healthy affection. During that coffee date, i felt so present with him that I could  feel that peace and joy.

Well, that was the most serious post I've had in a while. Who knows where this will go? All I can say now is that I'm excited and I'll take it one day at a time. I'd like to take a risk and jump off the deep end. You can send positive thoughts, prayers or wisdom my way at any time. I've never done this before- you know, be vulnerable like this. I'm happy to share my experience with this online community. Keep in mind-your are only getting a sliver of the real guy.

January 12, 2013

Just a Glance

Alright, alright....so, it's true. I have neglected this blog for a while. I wish I could say it was due to the uncontrollable increase of prospective daters. But. Sigh. It is not.
I was recollecting, re-calibrating and re-centering myself. I have been in a period of self love. I needed to figure out what I was doing and why. Once I started this journey, I realized that it will never end. I'm excited to make better choices, that also include my dating pool.
The last few months- I entertained the company of a few guys but it turned out there were not up to snuff (to even write about).

Which leads me to last night.

All it took was a glance.
I recently started working at a new dining establishment in my neighborhood and around about hungry time I took a break to order a salad from the line. As I was sitting at the bar to enjoy my yum-tastic salad. Two gents arrived at the door- one who was my particular flavor and one not so much.
At that was the glance. He saw me and I saw him.
I noticed there wasn't many seats available so I scooted one stool down so that they may sit together. My savvy plan failed, because someone closer to the door scooted before they saw the open seats next to me. Oh well, I thought. I only have 10 min to eat this anyways. I finished and went back to my station. 
This was later in my shift, and for the next hour....I swear he keep looking at me. At first, I wasn't sure and thought I was imaging things. Later, I was kinda excited that a guy that I was interested in was interested in me. But I was working! Being professional is important to me, so I sort of gave up the idea that we would ever actually talked. I figured him and his friend would leave after and hour and that would be it.
Well, towards the end of my shift...he was still there. A friend of my casually showed up to meet me after work, so I purposefully posted her at the bar next to the men folk.
After I clocked out, I sat at the bar and chatted with my friend about boys and how silly they were. At the same time, I was eavesdropping (I know, it's bad). But when the guy you are attracted to is a loud talker, and two seats away- it's kinda hard not to shut off the ears. Oddly enough, he took was taking about the relationships of men and women, too! As my girlfriend was questioning all the men in the world- I casually turned to Mr. Interesting and said, "He's a man, you should just ask him."
Bingo-Bango. Then the interaction began.
He came over, gave some good advice and we hit it off. He kinda ignored his friend and I kinda ignored my friend  We talked til closing, and we went deep. Philosophy, God, Religion, relationships, - you know, all the things you shouldn't really talk about the first time you meet someone. We did! It wasn't bad. We agreed a lot, and we disagreed on some things. Longer story shorter- he asked if we could continue to the conversation another time. I said yes. He asked for number, and I gave.

Half an hour later- we texted each other til 4am.(Which I might add-I confirmed and he admitted he noticed me the moment he walked in and was keeping an eye on me while I was working. I found out- that he actually wanted to buy me a drink when I was on break- but once he noticed I was working he couldn't.) I went to sleep. Woke up, and he continued to text me and set up a date.
I'm intrigued by this guy who I'm attracted to physically and attracted to intellectually.
First guy to challenge me in a while. I"m excited.
I'll keep posted about the next engagement.