Let me just say how exhausted am I at some of my “guy
friends”. This specifically goes out to those guys friends who would never say
we dated, but somehow wind up with some kind of chemistry by the end of the
night. Yah, YOU! I hope you do read my silly little blog, because it’s your
turn to be brought up.
I’m tired of these types of guys friends because in
actuality they are not good friends at all. They, at times of their need and
want, present a false intimacy. I foolishly take it hook, line and sinker
because I am truly looking for intimacy (even in an honest friendship). I end
up getting fooled because a person of the male persuasion cultivates a serious
of exchanges with me whereupon I feel they have gained trust. That
trust is often gained by seeing each other in a multitude of platonic and or group
casual settings. Then magically, there is this unspoken agreement that we
should be in closer proximity, flirt more and have notions with each other
under no what-so-ever verbal agreement of anything more than friends.
Is my little heart so fragile, ignorant or naïve? Why do I
keep collecting these types of guy friends who really end up manipulating me
for some kind of physical affection? Yuck.
I know, I know- I’m working on my backbone for all you
prudent, black and white, strong-willed ladies. It takes time to see the light
and come out these types of relationships. My new goal is to stop them before
it starts. Honestly, these guy friends aren’t worth my time, especially if they
are not truly interested in my betterment. My plan is to set new boundaries and
if these so called friends are truly my friends then they will be respected and
we can commence with a positive and healthy friendship.
So, for YOU listening (reading rather)- if you just want a
hug or a kiss or a cuddle at the end of the night- DUECES. That is not why I’m your friend and you have
your motives all wrong. If you want a girlfriend who can provide the previous
things then go find one- it’s not me! I will take on my own responsibility and
do my best to provide you with more “No’s” and “What the hell are you doing?”-
if that will help you more. Stop using women to get your silly needs met over their
personhood. We are not toys, we are humans with feelings too. If this does
bring about a light bulb over your head- and somehow you have been brought to
repentance- maybe you should reconsider your definition of a friend. In the
case you plan to be my friend, sans the cuddle-bits, you might want to apologize
for your douchebaggery, grow up and make appropriate boundaries. This is my
last warning or you will be permanently cut out.
Thanks, love you like a friend, a real friend who tells the
truth.
